Dictating this on this Sunday morning, listening to my kids stomp around outside the bedroom, calling numbers back-and-forth to each other (their new thing is drawing competitive math times tables in different colourful ways).
I just wanted to say how much I appreciate all the support. I feel very lucky to be in this community. And to be able to just be honest with whatever real thing is happening in my life. Sarah read my post and was like “I might have edited this slightly, my love, it’s a little dramatic.” It’s true, I wrote it from the middle of the complete shit storm of a day. Things are already settling; were I to write it this morning it would be different. But then, that’s part of what I wanna be able to do here. Just be real in the moment about how things are. Sometimes I get tired of the calm posture of having figured it all out. Here we definitely get to be in process together!
Oh man! Just reading all of this and it brings back memories of… earlier today? yesterday? 🤣 So there with you my friend! Sending you all a virtual equanimity care package!
A little drama keeps it real! Keeping it real is why this community is so strong -- when you share your own struggles, you give us permission to accept our own. We all have those moments where reactivity chugs away at breakneck speed. Equanimity??? Maybe later.
Glad to hear things have settled for your crew, Jeff.
This is a great reminder that everything changes, the good and the bad. Remembering that helps me (when I can access it) get through challenging, boring things.
It is also a great reminder during beautiful and wonderful things, they will also change, so be present when they arise. Easier said than done.
Glad we’ve all got this group to help us navigate.
Sending you infinite care bear stares… even if you were being a little dramatic (which I don't doubt for a second a multitude of causes and conditions must have called for 😘).
Jeff, oodles of love and hugs to you, Sarah, and your boys. For young kids the transition from summer back to school is stressful under the best of conditions, and the move back to BC adds another layer of disruption to jagged nervous systems. Yes, it can be about setting boundaries and trying not to get hooked by someone else’s neediness, but they’re your kids. As parents, we are only as happy as our unhappiest child, as calm as our most freaked out child. And if everyone is bouncing off the walls, it’s hard to create a space for calm.
In high stress situations I try to use what I’ve learned from you. Not just to remember to pause, but to give myself permission to do so. The pause makes the recentering possible. It can break the spell of the escalating craziness for everyone in the room.
Oh man! That’s a lot Jeff. September is always hectic and the move (any move!) back to BC is stressful. Sending you, Sarah and your kids lots of calming, getting settled and more sleep energy.
Adding on: thanks for this great meditation - really needed it!! Had to care for my husband who got really sick, now we’re both sick whilst my siblings and I are dealing with different powers of attorney and legal stuff and care of our mother exhibiting signs of early dementia. Sending much love to everyone feeling and going through a lot…💜
Malaya- sending you love and courage. You’ve got so much on your plate right now, and even so have the bandwidth to respond to Jeff’s situation with understanding. Rest up when you can. ❤️
Malaya - there also a lot! I’m glad the boundaries meditation helped, it’s definitely helping me! Appreciate you friend, we’re happy to be back in your home province
Hi Jeff sending love patience and compassion for you and the family.
When I saw your words survival i immediately felt the alignment with those words . My brother is in ICU and it’s quite challenging. I hear your words this is just what’s happening now and I feel immediate comfort . I hope you can remember that too as you go through this time . Big hugs and positive energy xo
April, I am so sorry your brother is in the ICU. I’m really close with my brothers and I can understand how challenging this is…I am sending prayers of healing for your brother, and calm strength and warmth for you and your family. 💜
That sounds so hard. I never had any children and I sometimes don’t know how folks do it. Sending so much love and gentle hugs and boundaries and regulation to all in the Sarah and Jeff household. Thank you for sharing this meditation. ❤️🩹
My parents were authoritarian and that had horrible consequences mainly because they were also disregulated. Idk what the solution is but keep your heart open and forgive yourself for not being prefect. This too shall pass.
Totally needed this one. I am a teacher and we are back to school… If I’m not careful, I walk around with people-pleasing energy all day long, and it’s just exhausting! This really helped me to identify it in my body and hold it with a little more kindness and wisdom. Thanks, Jeff.
Your comments went straight to the Heart in an almost electric way. I love the comments sending you positive energy as I do too! Over here I have over 2k consecutive meditations on Calm mainly with you JW. But for over a weeks I’ve been unable to sign in due to conflicts with the Kaiser app & Calm. Poof - gone. Wondering if it’s a message it’s time to follow you here? We’re in this together. Onward - d d
You are a very generous human being. Our children need everything we can bring forth from our personal well, as we shape our family path and write our family narrative. We give ourselves to them. Thank you for your pure intentions. Be well.
And the thing is Jeff, these moments are precious to you, Sarah and the boys. One breath at time. You've supported and taught me much since I started meditation. ❤️ (My husband and I celebrate our 45 Wedding Anniversary come January 2027 — a blended family of 6 children) ... Most recently you and the Home Base Community have taught me the importance of to 'do nothing.' Being a doer, I'm learning to pause, my brain take a rest, and pressures fade. I pray that you, and Sarah feel the compassion that you have for yourselves — letting your human pressures fade ... Again, and again, and again. ❤️ Calm stability and inner strength. I like what Tamara says: "The pause makes the recentering possible. It can break the spell of the escalating craziness for everyone in the room." Bless us all. Hugs, Carol 💞
Thanks, Carol. Breathing is definitely helping . Abd trying to stay loose in my body, noticing whenever I seize up into some kind of reactive contraction. Things are better today! (So far)
Something new to me: "The Butterfly Hug: Cross your arms over your chest with your fingertips below your collarbone, then gently alternate tapping your hands left and right like butterfly wings while breathing slowly. Focus on your heartbeat, the warmth of your hands, and the release of tension with each long exhale." I found this brought me to myself — affirmation within. Love to you and your family!
This is an elixir .. a balm on a big open soar I have been working on for a mighty long time !! Many thanks for your ability and wisdom to call it out and be so real and spot on.
Dictating this on this Sunday morning, listening to my kids stomp around outside the bedroom, calling numbers back-and-forth to each other (their new thing is drawing competitive math times tables in different colourful ways).
I just wanted to say how much I appreciate all the support. I feel very lucky to be in this community. And to be able to just be honest with whatever real thing is happening in my life. Sarah read my post and was like “I might have edited this slightly, my love, it’s a little dramatic.” It’s true, I wrote it from the middle of the complete shit storm of a day. Things are already settling; were I to write it this morning it would be different. But then, that’s part of what I wanna be able to do here. Just be real in the moment about how things are. Sometimes I get tired of the calm posture of having figured it all out. Here we definitely get to be in process together!
Oh man! Just reading all of this and it brings back memories of… earlier today? yesterday? 🤣 So there with you my friend! Sending you all a virtual equanimity care package!
A little drama keeps it real! Keeping it real is why this community is so strong -- when you share your own struggles, you give us permission to accept our own. We all have those moments where reactivity chugs away at breakneck speed. Equanimity??? Maybe later.
yay for colourful math!
Glad to hear things have settled for your crew, Jeff.
This is a great reminder that everything changes, the good and the bad. Remembering that helps me (when I can access it) get through challenging, boring things.
It is also a great reminder during beautiful and wonderful things, they will also change, so be present when they arise. Easier said than done.
Glad we’ve all got this group to help us navigate.
Jeff, Thank you for always being REAL with us. For your support and most importantly for being a beautifully imperfect human. xD
Sending you infinite care bear stares… even if you were being a little dramatic (which I don't doubt for a second a multitude of causes and conditions must have called for 😘).
Jeff, oodles of love and hugs to you, Sarah, and your boys. For young kids the transition from summer back to school is stressful under the best of conditions, and the move back to BC adds another layer of disruption to jagged nervous systems. Yes, it can be about setting boundaries and trying not to get hooked by someone else’s neediness, but they’re your kids. As parents, we are only as happy as our unhappiest child, as calm as our most freaked out child. And if everyone is bouncing off the walls, it’s hard to create a space for calm.
In high stress situations I try to use what I’ve learned from you. Not just to remember to pause, but to give myself permission to do so. The pause makes the recentering possible. It can break the spell of the escalating craziness for everyone in the room.
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Thanks For your kind words Tamar! Things will settle, so much of it is about managing transitions, especially with my cutie eldest. ❤️
Oh man! That’s a lot Jeff. September is always hectic and the move (any move!) back to BC is stressful. Sending you, Sarah and your kids lots of calming, getting settled and more sleep energy.
Adding on: thanks for this great meditation - really needed it!! Had to care for my husband who got really sick, now we’re both sick whilst my siblings and I are dealing with different powers of attorney and legal stuff and care of our mother exhibiting signs of early dementia. Sending much love to everyone feeling and going through a lot…💜
Malaya- sending you love and courage. You’ve got so much on your plate right now, and even so have the bandwidth to respond to Jeff’s situation with understanding. Rest up when you can. ❤️
Exactly, kind of amazing
@tamarzinn Thank you for your kind words, dear Tamar. 💜
Malaya - there also a lot! I’m glad the boundaries meditation helped, it’s definitely helping me! Appreciate you friend, we’re happy to be back in your home province
Thank you for sharing this meditation when you’re going through so much. Sending you positivity and equanimity and anything else you need!❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thanks, Susan!
When you learn the answers, please share (I am a grandparent to 3 rowdy girls, 1, 3 and 5).
I keep looking for the solution but circle back to - as long as they know you LOVE THEM. I sure hope that works in the long run.
❤️
Hi Jeff sending love patience and compassion for you and the family.
When I saw your words survival i immediately felt the alignment with those words . My brother is in ICU and it’s quite challenging. I hear your words this is just what’s happening now and I feel immediate comfort . I hope you can remember that too as you go through this time . Big hugs and positive energy xo
April thank you for taking the time. Sending your brother healing vibes and hope you’re getting a support you need. ❤️
April, I am so sorry your brother is in the ICU. I’m really close with my brothers and I can understand how challenging this is…I am sending prayers of healing for your brother, and calm strength and warmth for you and your family. 💜
Thank you so much ! So very sweet of you to send your prayers !
I have been thinking about how support can come from unexpected places and how very nice that is.
Sending you love and appreciation ❤️
You are so welcome April. 💖
Wonderful as always Jeff. Thank you. It resonated with me so much. Thank you my friend
That sounds so hard. I never had any children and I sometimes don’t know how folks do it. Sending so much love and gentle hugs and boundaries and regulation to all in the Sarah and Jeff household. Thank you for sharing this meditation. ❤️🩹
Thanks, Kellye!
Oh Jeff. I feel you. Nothing to offer here except that I know you’re doing your best and that’s enough. You’ll all make it through. Sending love.
Already getting better, Linda, thank you
My parents were authoritarian and that had horrible consequences mainly because they were also disregulated. Idk what the solution is but keep your heart open and forgive yourself for not being prefect. This too shall pass.
Working on it! Many thanks Marie
Love this response Marie. Sometimes the only way out is through. 😅
Totally needed this one. I am a teacher and we are back to school… If I’m not careful, I walk around with people-pleasing energy all day long, and it’s just exhausting! This really helped me to identify it in my body and hold it with a little more kindness and wisdom. Thanks, Jeff.
So glad to hear that Sarah! I am in awe of my teacher friends, I honestly do not know how they do it.
Your comments went straight to the Heart in an almost electric way. I love the comments sending you positive energy as I do too! Over here I have over 2k consecutive meditations on Calm mainly with you JW. But for over a weeks I’ve been unable to sign in due to conflicts with the Kaiser app & Calm. Poof - gone. Wondering if it’s a message it’s time to follow you here? We’re in this together. Onward - d d
Thanks, Debby. This is definitely a community being in it together!
You are a very generous human being. Our children need everything we can bring forth from our personal well, as we shape our family path and write our family narrative. We give ourselves to them. Thank you for your pure intentions. Be well.
You too, Jenette thank you
And the thing is Jeff, these moments are precious to you, Sarah and the boys. One breath at time. You've supported and taught me much since I started meditation. ❤️ (My husband and I celebrate our 45 Wedding Anniversary come January 2027 — a blended family of 6 children) ... Most recently you and the Home Base Community have taught me the importance of to 'do nothing.' Being a doer, I'm learning to pause, my brain take a rest, and pressures fade. I pray that you, and Sarah feel the compassion that you have for yourselves — letting your human pressures fade ... Again, and again, and again. ❤️ Calm stability and inner strength. I like what Tamara says: "The pause makes the recentering possible. It can break the spell of the escalating craziness for everyone in the room." Bless us all. Hugs, Carol 💞
Thanks, Carol. Breathing is definitely helping . Abd trying to stay loose in my body, noticing whenever I seize up into some kind of reactive contraction. Things are better today! (So far)
Something new to me: "The Butterfly Hug: Cross your arms over your chest with your fingertips below your collarbone, then gently alternate tapping your hands left and right like butterfly wings while breathing slowly. Focus on your heartbeat, the warmth of your hands, and the release of tension with each long exhale." I found this brought me to myself — affirmation within. Love to you and your family!
This is an elixir .. a balm on a big open soar I have been working on for a mighty long time !! Many thanks for your ability and wisdom to call it out and be so real and spot on.
Love you Jeff Warren ❣️
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Jesus F@#k dude!
That bell scared the shit
Outta me. nooce sits